Heller thought she'd found her dream man-- until he turned out to be a "frequent flier," the term doctors and nurses use to refer to patients who land in the E.R. more often than the average person goes to Starbucks. Here, Jane shares her experiences of looking after her chronically ill husband and offers practical guidance for handling it all without drowning. She provides advice on staying healthy while caring for a loved one and learning to communicate with medical staff.

New York Times Bestselling Author: “Candid, informative, upbeat, and sometimes ribald . . . a useful book for patients and caregivers alike.” —Publishers Weekly (starred review) Bestselling novelist Jane Heller thought she’d found her dream man—until he turned out to be a “frequent flier,” the term doctors and nurses use to refer to patients who land in the E.R. more often than the average person goes to Starbucks. Here, Jane shares her experiences of looking after her chronically ill husband with Nora Ephron–like wit, and offers practical guidance for handling it all without drowning. With advice on staying healthy while caring for a loved one and learning to communicate with medical staff, plus wisdom from other caregivers and experts, this is a personal and invaluable tool kit that also manages to prompt laughter and inspire. “Heller aims to offer a different perspective—the importance of dealing with one’s own emotions and needs in order to have the strength to provide care to others.” —TheWall Street Journal “Writing with humor and a relaxed style, Heller has produced a valuable, virtual support group in book form.” —Library Journal

"A ... new philosophy and ... guide to getting the most out of your money--and out of life--for those who value memorable experiences as much as their earnings"--

The author, a computer science professor diagnosed with terminal cancer, explores his life, the lessons that he has learned, how he has worked to achieve his childhood dreams, and the effect of his diagnosis on him and his family.