A Tibetan Buddhist nun offers her insights on anger, the ways that it manifests in our lives, and the ways that we can skillfully work to transform it, in this inspiring and humble guidebook. Anger plagues all of us on many levels and can be a formidable emotion to overcome. Yet, we see people, such as the Dalai Lama, who have faced circumstances far worse than many of us have faced—including exile, persecution, and the loss of many loved ones—but do not burn with rage or seek revenge. Using the teachings and advice presented by beloved Buddhist teacher Thubten Chodron, anyone can learn to calm their emotions, sit with and understand their anger, and peacefully move toward resolution and peace. Working with Anger presents a variety of Buddhist methods for subduing and preventing anger—not by changing what is happening but by framing our feelings and circumstances anew. As Chodron writes, we each long for harmony—in our hearts, relationships, and societies—and this book can help all of us to accomplish just that.

A Tibetan Buddhist nun “offers her insights on anger, the ways that it manifests in our lives, and the ways that we can skillfully work to transform it” in this “inspiring and humble” guidebook (Sharon Salzberg, New York Times–bestselling author) Anger plagues all of us on a personal, national, and international level. Yet we see people, such as the Dalai Lama, who have faced circumstances far worse than many of us have faced—including exile, persecution, and the loss of many loved ones—but who do not burn with rage or seek revenge. How do they do it? Working with Anger presents a variety of Buddhist methods for subduing and preventing anger not by changing what is happening, but by framing it differently. No matter what our religion, learning to work with our anger is effective for everyone seeking personal happiness as well as world peace. “ . . . a kind and genuinely helpful guide to handling one of the greatest challenges in living an emotionally intelligent life.” —Daniel Goleman, author Emotional Intelligence

Working with anger takes a delicate balance of containment and expression. Creativity helps us do just that. Based on art therapy theory and practice, the activities, materials, instructions, process, and reflection questions in this practical guide are all thoughtfully designed as avenues for therapeutic change. Helpful tips provide adaptations for meeting the unique needs of art-adverse clients, as well as varying ages and abilities, so everyone can benefit from creative approaches to working with anger. Anger is a vital part of the emotional landscape, and a thoughtful approach to its nuances can make all the difference in avoiding harmful outcomes. The exercises in this book help you to guide clients toward finding meaningful roles for anger so that it enriches, rather than diminishes, their quality of life.

Chronic anger can be costly, both physically and emotionally. Most people can use their anger in appropriate ways in some situations, and yet be ineffectual in others. Working with The Real Solution Anger Management Workbook reduces levels of anger, especially in provocative situations. You will learn effective coping behaviors to stop escalation and to resolve conflicts. Graduated homework assignments allow participants to apply their newly acquired skills. The Real Solution Anger Management Workbook employs the three major anger management interventions by using model presentations, rehearsal, positive feedback and promoting.

Describes anger, its possible causes, and suggestions for how to deal with it.