Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. Drawing on his twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers. Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others. Dr. Bader sensitively tells the stories of his patients and explains the meaning of their sexual fantasies. In terms refreshingly free of jargon, he reveals how his profound new theory can be used to decipher a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behavior, ranging from ordinary preferences about positions in bed to flamboyant scenarios worthy of the Marquis de Sade. And yet, Dr. Bader's exciting new theory transcends the realm of individual psychology. Readers will come away with a radically new understanding of such issues as sexual chemistry and boredom, cybersex, pornography, and the differences in how men and women get excited. Both erudite and accessible, Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies is an important landmark in the literature of sexuality.

The #1 New York Times–bestselling author’s “groundbreaking” work on women’s sexual fantasies (Publishers Weekly). First published in 1973, My Secret Garden ignited a firestorm of reactions across the nation—from outrage to enthusiastic support. Collected from detailed personal interviews with hundreds of women from diverse backgrounds, this book presents a bracingly honest account of women’s inner sexual fantasy lives. In its time, this book shattered taboos and opened up a conversation about the landscape of feminine desire in a way that was unprecedented. Today, My Secret Garden remains one of the most iconic works of feminist literature of our time—and is still relevant to millions of women throughout the world. “The author whose books about gender politics helped redefine American women’s sexuality.” —The New York Times

Presents and analyzes the results of a study of the sexual fantasies of over 23,000 men and women of all ages, discussing stories of specific individuals, the role of fantasy in waking life, and the functions of these fantasies.

Shocking, fun, and illuminating all at once, this book dares to break the silence as men across the nation share their uncensored fantasies and innermost wants without reservation. Challenging myths about men and sexuality, over seventy fantasies from over 500 men provide reassurance to men that they are not alone -- and offer unique insight to women as to what really makes men tick!

This sexy, enlightening book--filled with the intimate revelations of more than 50 couples--shows how creating and acting out fantasies can offer the kind of sexual fulfillment and erotic satisfaction that many people only dream of.

Turn your favorite sexual fantasies into reality, safely and successfully…The complete guide for everyone—women and men, singles and couples! Join the legions of couples and singles who are making their hottest sexual fantasies come true. Whether you’re looking for an endless supply of fantasy ideas or expert advice for a playful, imaginative sex life that turns you both on, this charming and information-packed book will tell you exactly what you need to know: * Learn your lover’s secret fantasies * Role-play: hot, dramatic sex without feeling silly * Comprehensive lists of the most popular fantasies and fetishes—complete with suggestions for props, toys, and costumes (and where to buy them) * Expert help for deciding just how far to take your fantasies * How to have a threesome—without jealousy * Sex parties and swinging * How to have sex in public * Create thrilling S/M scenarios * Racy sex games for lovers * How to strip, lap dance, talk dirty * Make your own porn and erotic photographs * PLUS…hot new stories by best-selling erotica author Alison Tyler

A collection of women’s intimate erotic thoughts by the #1 New York Times–bestselling author of The Secret Garden and “liberator of the female libido” (Newsday). The publication of the groundbreaking expose on women's sexual fantasies, My Secret Garden, ushered in a revolution in women's sexual freedom of expression. In Forbidden Flowers, Nancy Friday reveals even more erotic, wild, and explicit fantasies expressed by women all over the world, from all ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds. Like My Secret Garden before it, Forbidden Flowers is a celebration of the depth, potency, and imaginative breadth of women’s inner erotic lives. By giving female readers a glimpse into the ordinary and often extraordinary fantasies of other women, it offers to some an exhilarating freedom from the guilt and shame so often associated with sexual fantasy—and to others, provides fascinating insight into the psychology of female sexual response. “The author whose books about gender politics helped redefine American women’s sexuality.” —The New York Times