When I started this project, I knew I was committing to producing something that would render you completely immune to limerence. As a neuroscientist who used to suffer horrifically from the condition but is now completely free, I want nothing more than for all of you to achieve the same. If you heed the advice in this book and commit to your own expansion, I can guarantee that you will never fall for an LO again. Limerence is possibly the most tenacious, painful behavioural pattern that exists. Many people remain trapped in its grips for decades, which is devastating when only a few weeks/months of implementing the correct thinking patterns can transform your subconscious mind and free you.Intense unrequited love is a multi-faceted, incredibly complex phenomenon, so we must comprehend every possible facet of limerence and reconcile all of the different ways that we break it down. Neurobiology, psychology or spirituality all describe the same phenomenon in different terms - but what is at the ROOT of this disorder?You will learn: - The role that genetics plays in priming you for limerence- The brain regions that activate during limerence, and what this reveals about how to cure it- Dopamine, reward pathways, and the reason why anticipation of future times with this person are so euphoric- Why other people transition into real relationships, yet you attract unrequited love- How to discover the precise psychological needs that YOU have but are neglecting (and how to honour them)- Thoughts, beliefs, and how these actively dictate what every aspect of our lives is like- How to ascertain which particular beliefs of yours are a). limiting and b). aligning you with limerence- All about limerent objects (LOs): common traits that they have- Your trigger archetype: why do you fall for the people you fall for?- The Law of Assumption: where spirituality meets science- How to change your beliefs and meet your needs, which in turns heals your brain, balances your neurotransmitters and promises you permanent emotional freedom- The benefits of being limerence prone: how your obsessive and motivated disposition will make you incredibly successful (far more so than your calmer, more stable friends) once you detach from person addiction and start to live for yourself.Once we've appreciated all the different aspects of a single limerent episode, you will learn how to methodically rewire your brain. Many obese people think that they can't quit sugar, but the proactive ones do and then remain skinny for life. Similarly, you are wholly capable of becoming a version of yourself who isn't just 'limerence-free', but who could never even fall for a limerent object in the first place. Your current reality is just the reflection of your beliefs and thoughts; change these, and the external world will rearrange in front of your eyes and you will effortlessly attract real, beautiful love.Limerence becomes your norm, but it isn't normal; recovery is essential and non-negotiable. Give yourself your best chance in this life and leave limerence behind now, rather than having to go through this transition in 10 years time. Bliss, clarity and pure, magical abundance awaits you! Plus, someone who's limerence-prone but has *beaten* limerence possesses major advantages in this world, both socially and professionally. ✨ The same genetics that let you 'fixate' on an LO render you driven, smart, articulate, intense and passionate.It just takes educating yourself, unsticking your brain and redirecting your inner flame towards wonderful things

""Eighth grade isnÕt easy for anyone and we all look for ways to express ourselves. Some people dye their hair, other people start wearing makeup for the first time, and I wrote poems about a crush I had on a boy that I couldnÕt talk to anyone about but him; and when I couldnÕt talk to him I wrote poetry instead. "" When I stumbled onto seven sonnets I wrote in eighth grade I was filled with many emotions. Happiness that I had found them, lingering hurt from a preteen crush, and confidence in my skills as a writer. There was a time in my life when these sonnets were one of the things I was proud of the most. I owe it to my past self to publish them like I always said that I would. Alongside the sonnets I have included three poems which continue the theme of heartbreak and one poem which covers what it means to exist at all.

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

As a neuroscientist who has successfully completely overcome chronic depersonalization and derealization (DPDR), I am driven to teach every last sufferer a). what this 'disorder' really is and b). how to cure it in a matter of days and ensure that you never relapse.Regardless of how dissociated and lost you currently feel, you are as real, safe and alive as you were when you were a curious child. What's more, I am going to teach you how to make these feelings vanish. There is nothing intractable about dissociative anxiety; when you are ready to launch yourself towards recovery and fight against the illusion, it disappears - it simply can no longer be sustained when you are truly committed to living in the real world.

When an idol and fan stand face to face and the idol's mask comes off, is it simply the fan staring into a mirror, admiring their own reflection? Idol Limerence explores the mass phenomena of the Korean idol, in particular, BTS and how it intersects with the psychological experience of limerence, as originated by Dorothy Tennov. Further phenomena will be introduced with an exploration of persona as a link to a fantasy realm accessed by both idol and fan. Culminating in the exploration of the revolutionary capacity of BTS and their fan base, ARMY, who were created in their image. Echo's narrative spans from her first love as a child to falling in love with BTS as an adult, an experience she feels is largely out of her control. Idol Limerence is a love story wrapped in social theory that spans this universe and the next. Insperence is the space where the revolution can begin to take hold; insperence is where we can all become revolutionaries. In many ways, we already are.Idol Limerence: The Art of Loving BTS as Phenomena by Wallea Eaglehawk is a scholarly and literary work on the phenomenon that is BTS, the most popular and influential music group of our generation. Idol Limerence is a cognitive and emotional state of loving adoration and attachment to an Idol or celebrity. Echo, a young millennial woman, finds herself falling deeply in love with a group of blouse-wearing Korean men who sing, dance and dish out uncommon potent eye contact like it's a period drama. This book joins Echo on her journey from first love as a child to falling in love with K-pop group BTS as an adult. Echo learns just how and why she can't control her feelings towards BTS, not that she really wants to; and this is not an isolated experience, she is not alone but part of BTS' fan base, ARMY. The theory of Idol Limerence is developed from the psychological idea of limerence and linked to sociological concepts of identity, persona, parasocial relationships, love and celebrity. The theory development is interwoven with the love narrative of Echo which shows how Idol Limerence can be a 'safe-love' alternative for millennials overwhelmed by loving and dating in a world on the brink of collapse. If the question is 'Why can't I stop thinking about what my life with BTS would look like?' Idol Limerence is the answer and becoming a revolutionary to save the world is the result.

The summer Lisa A. Phillips turned thirty, she fell in love with someone who didn’t return her feelings. She became obsessed, following him around, calling him compulsively, and talking about him endlessly. One desperate morning, after she snuck into his apartment building, he picked up a baseball bat to protect himself and threatened to dial 911. Her unrequited love had changed her from a sane, conscientious college teacher and radio reporter into someone she barely recognized—someone who had taken her yearning much too far. In Unrequited, Phillips explores the tremendous force of obsessive love in women’s lives. She argues that it needs to be understood, respected, and channeled for personal growth—yet it also has the potential to go terribly awry. Interweaving her own story with frank interviews and in-depth research in science, psychology, cultural history, and literature, Phillips describes how romantic obsession takes root, grows, and strongly influences our thoughts and behaviors. Going beyond images of creepy, fatally attracted psychos, male fantasies of unbridled female desire, and the platitudes of self-help books, Phillips offers compelling insights to help any woman who has experienced unrequited obsessive love and been mystified and troubled by its grip. “An ingenious hybrid of memoir, case study, scientific inquiry, and intellectual history not only of unrequited love but of Love, full stop, with a capital L.”—Washington Post “There is no cure for the pain of rejection, although researchers are working on it. Until then, Phillips suggests we ‘honor passion by confining and using it instead of letting it diminish us.’”—Chicago Tribune