Are faulty beliefs damaging your marriage? If you are experiencing conflict, anger, or hurt in your marriage, you don’t need positive thinking or an escape clause—you need to replace the lies you believe with God’s transforming truths for your relationship to become all that it was meant to be. According to Dr. Chris Thurman, everyone enters marriage with misguided attitudes and expectations such as: “My spouse is a bigger mess than me.” “The purpose of marriage is to be happy.” “My spouse should meet all my needs.” This practical book dismantles the ten most common lies couples believe and helps you renew your mind with God’s truths for a more caring, close, and connected marriage.

A vital resource for a thriving marriage from Focus on the Family.

This newly repackaged edition examines the lies people tell themselves that damage emotional health, relationships, and spiritual life. Psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman guides the reader through part one that identifies the different areas of self-lies, religious lies, marital lies, distortion lies, and worldly lies. Part Two delves into the issues of what is truth, and Part Three deals with how to live the truth, ultimately revealing the freedom that can only come from one thing-believing and telling themselves the truth. An extremely easy-to-follow guide filled with comprehensive workbook exercises, this edition is a way to help people experience the emotional health, intimate relationships, and spiritual fulfillment they are seeking. Previous editions: 0-8407-3192-2 and 07852-7343-3

Expose the Lies. Understand the Truths. And Make Your Marriage Better than Ever! Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture—and in our churches. But the corresponding truths can strengthen your marriage and even save it from collapse. 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage identifies the lies, explains how they can disintegrate your marriage, and reveals truths that can rescue it and help it to become the marriage of your dreams. Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of Hope Restored, a renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, combine to offer an unusual and powerful combination of perspectives that can restore hope and healing in any marriage, including yours. What Are the 9 Lies about Marriage? Love Lie #1: And They Lived Happily Ever After Love Lie #2: 1 + 1 = 1 Love Lie #3: All You Need Is Love Love Lie #4: I Must Sacrifice Who I Am for the Sake of My Marriage Love Lie #5: You Must Meet Each Other’s Needs Love Lie #6: Our Differences Are Irreconcilable Love Lie #7: I’m Gonna Make You Love Me Love Lie #8: “Your Love Is Driving Me Crazy!” Love Lie #9: You Win Some, You Lose Some Do any of these lies resonate with you? Read 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage and start exposing the lies and living the truth. Includes several self-tests to help you and your spouse assess the extent to which your marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.

The lies that society teaches are the number one cause for unhappiness. From "I must be perfect" to "My spouse should meet all my needs", Dr. Thurman takes a look at the lies that make people miserable and the truths that can set them free.

In a world that is veering dangerously off course from what it calls “truth” comes a classic work that unmasks the lies we unwittingly believe, lies that destroy us and ultimately damage our emotional health, relationships, and spiritual life. In this completely revised and updated edition, psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman guides the reader through the lies we believe about ourselves, relationships, life, men, women, and, most important, God. He then unpacks the twelve essential truths for emotional health and the truth about God—the ultimate source of Truth. This easy-to-follow guide to renewing the mind helps identify problem areas and the midcourse correction needed in how we view ourselves and our world. With discussion questions and biblical support, this timeless classic is required reading to help develop the mind of Christ and be able to experience the abundant life.

You have been lied to! Have you been deceived? Through a nationwide survey and in-depth discussion groups, Nancy and Dannah have listened carefully to the heart of your generation. And here are some things they’ve heard: -“I know God should be the only thing that satisfies, but if it could be Him and my friends, then I could be happy.” -“It seems like I have been struggling with depression forever. I always feel like I am not good enough.” - “I tell myself that I don’t really listen to the song lyrics, but once I hear a song a few times and start thinking about what they’re saying I realize that it's too late. It's already stuck in my head." -“For me, the whole wife and mom thing is overrated. It isn’t cool to want a husband and a family.” Maybe you can identify. Trying to listen to the right voices can be difficult. This book has been written by friends who will help you find the Truth. Maybe your heart is telling you that some things in your life are way off course. Certain habits and relationships have left you confused and lonely. This is not the way it’s supposed to be. In this book, Nancy and Dannah expose 25 of the lies most commonly believed by your generation. They share real-life accounts from some of the young women they interviewed, along with honest stories about how they’ve overcome lies they believed themselves. They get down in the trenches of the battle with you. Best of all, they’ll show you how to be set free by the Truth.