The author suggests that nothing strikes a stake through the heart of marital hopes and dreams like the incessant pursuit of happiness, with the therapeutic community often colluding with this cultural imperative. As spouses demand that their partners and their marriages make them happy, a myriad of unfortunate dynamics ensue making the typical marriage unbearable. "Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy offers both couples and professionals an uniquely in depth perspective upon marriage that can't be found in the pages of any other text." -Dr. George Rogers. Author of Terror, Bonding and Psychotherapy. "Paul Dunion's Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy collects the many lost voices and broken hearts of modern marriage. When you truly dive into your own story with the tools found in this book, and flush out the teachings and the blessings, your marriage and maybe even your life could be saved." -Jeffrey Duvall. Author of Men, Meaning and Prayer-The Reconciliation of Heart and Soul in Modern Manhood. "Shadow Marriage is wonderfully insightful and fully grounded at the same time! Dr. Dunion has encapsulated many years of experience into his text. You can feel the weight of each sentence as it comes off the page. This book will help anyone gain a deeper understanding of the inner workings of love and relationship." -Cliff Barry. Founder of Shadow Work Seminars.

Penny Jordan needs no introduction as arguably the most recognisable name writing for Mills & Boon. We have celebrated her wonderful writing with a special collection, many of which for the first time in eBook format and all available right now.

Anne Griffiths originally went to Botswana to establish a university course in family law. But independent fieldwork in Botswana convinced her of the central role of the traditional customary legal system that stands alongside the colonial common law of courts and magistrates she was examining in her course. In the first comparative work on these two systems, Griffiths shows how the structure of both legal institutions is based on power and gender relations that heavily favor males. Griffiths's analysis is based on careful observation of how people actually experience the law as well as the more standard tools of statutes and cases familiar to Western legal scholars. She explains how women's access to law is determined by social relations over which they have little control. In this powerful feminist critique of law and anthropology, Griffiths shows how law and custom are inseparable for Kwena women. Both colonial common law and customary law pose comparable and constant challenges to Kwena women's attempts to improve their positions in society.

The civil war between the Sri Lankan state and Tamil militants, which ended in 2009, lasted more than three decades and led to mass migration, mainly to India, Canada, England, and continental Europe. In Marrying for a Future, Sidharthan Maunaguru argues that the social institution of marriage has emerged as a critical means of building alliances between dispersed segments of Tamil communities, allowing scattered groups to reunite across national borders. Maunaguru explores how these fragmented communities were rekindled by connections fostered by key participants in and elements of the marriage process, such as wedding photographers, marriage brokers, legal documents, and transit places. Marrying for a Future contributes to transnational and diaspora marriage studies by looking at the temporary spaces through which migrants and refugees travel in addition to their home and host countries. It provides a new conceptual framework for studies on kinship and marriage and addresses a community that has been separated across borders as a result of war.

A New York Times Notable Book of 2002 . Sexism, racism, self-hatred, and romantic love: all figure in prominently in this scholarly-but nicely hard-boiled-discussion of the bond between the famous Paul Laurence Dunbar and his wife Alice. Eleanor Alexander's analysis of turn-of-the-twentieth-century black marriage is required reading for every student of American, especially African-American, heterosexual relationships.. OCoNell Painter, Edwards Professor of American History, Princeton University, Author of Sojourner Truth, A Life, A Symbol. Rich in documentation and generous in analysis, Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow advances our understanding of late nineteenth- and early twentieth-century African American social and cultural history in compelling and unexpected ways. By exposing the devastating consequences of unequal power dynamics and gender relations in the union of the celebrated writers, Paul Laurence Dunbar and Alice Ruth Moore, and by examining the hidden underside of the Dunbars' storybook romance where alcohol, sex, and violence prove fatal, Eleanor Alexander produces a provocative, nuanced interpretation of late Victorian courtship and marriage, of post-emancipation racial respectability and class mobility, of pre-modern sexual rituals and color conventions in an emergent elite black society.. OCoThadious M. Davis, Vanderbilt University. Eleanor Alexander's vivid account of the most famous black writer of his day, Paul Laurence Dunbar, and his wife Alice, illuminates the world of the African American literati at the opening of the twentieth century. The Dunbars' fairy-tale romance ended abruptly, when Alice walked out on her alcoholic, abusive spouse. Alexander's access to scores of intimate letters and her sensitive interpretation of the Dunbars mercurial highs and lows reveal the tragic consequences of mixing alcohol, ambition and amour. The Dunbars were precursors for another doomed duo: Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald. Alexander's poignant story of the Dunbars sheds important light on love and violence among DuBois's talented tenth.. OCoCatherine Clinton, author of Fanny Kemble's Civil Wars. Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow debunks Dunbar myths... Lyrics asks us to consider the ways in which racism and sexism operate together.. OCo The Crisis On February 10, 1906, Alice Ruth Moore, estranged wife of renowned early twentieth-century poet Paul Laurence Dunbar, boarded a streetcar, settled comfortably into her seat, and opened her newspaper to learn of her husband's death the day before. Paul Laurence Dunbar, son of former slaves, whom Frederick Douglass had dubbed the most promising young colored man in America, was dead from tuberculosis at the age of 33. Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow traces the tempestuous romance of America's most noted African-American literary couple. Drawing on a variety of love letters, diaries, journals, and autobiographies, Eleanor Alexander vividly recounts Dunbar's and Moore's tumultuous affair, from a courtship conducted almost entirely through letters and an elopement brought on by Dunbar's brutal, drunken rape of Moore, through their passionate marriage and its eventual violent dissolution in 1902. Moore, once having left Dunbar, rejected his every entreaty to return to him, responding to his many letters only once, with a blunt, one-word telegram (No). This is a remarkable story of tragic romance among African-American elites struggling to define themselves and their relationships within the context of post-slavery America. As such, it provides a timely examination of the ways in which cultural ideology and politics shape and complicate conceptions of romantic love."

Around midlife we begin to see patterns as situations repeat themselves. These patterns are reflected through the mirrors of other people whenever we feel extreme distaste and repulsion or the exact opposite ¿ a strong attraction. Thus, we are seeing a part of ourselves that we have yet to integrate. The noted Swiss psychiatrist Dr. Carl Gustav Jung called these hidden parts of us ¿the Shadow.¿ He believed that this task ¿ bringing our dark side (unconscious and undeveloped attitudes and characteristics) into the light ¿ is essential for true self-awareness.Becoming conscious of ¿the Shadow¿ is also a strong link to truly loving ourselves for all of who we are. We become more authentic in the process, and this opens the door to healthy and honest relationships with others that are real. Experiences that have puzzled us for years will all of a sudden become per­fectly clear when we learn about our Shadow and Jung¿s theory of opposites.The planets in or ruling the 7th house and/or in aspect to Venus will give you details of what you are missing in yourself. These hidden parts will be projected onto our partners. Once you can own your own Shadow, then a conscious relationship can begin as two people have detailed information to help them learn to cooperate and compromise (two key Libra words). Rebeca uses astrology, psychology and personal anecdotes as well as examples of those who have taken her workshops. The workbook also includes four case histories transcribed verbatim from actual consultations. Rebeca Eigen, an astrologer for 25= years and a student of Jungian psychology, specializes in relationships. She uses the astrological birth chart to evoke the symbolic and help you become more aware of your total Self. Her study of the Shadow using astrological tools has given her an invaluable awareness of the unconscious and the role it plays in the relationships that we attract into our lives. We know from studying myth that Beauty eventually learned to love the Beast.

Beneath the social mask we wear every day, we have a hidden shadow side: an impulsive, wounded, sad, or isolated part that we generally try to ignore, but which can erupt in hurtful ways. As therapists Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf show in this landmark book, the shadow can actually be a source of emotional richness and vitality, and acknowledging it can be a pathway to healing and an authentic life. "Romancing the shadow"--meeting your dark side, beginning to understand its unconscious messages, and learning to use its powerful energies in productive ways--is the challenging and exciting soul work that Zweig and Wolf offer in this practical, rewarding guide. Drawing on the timeless teachings of Carl Jung and compelling stories from their clinical practices, Zweig and Wolf reveal how the shadow guides your choices in love, sex, marriage, friendship, work, and family life. With their innovative method, you can uncover the unique patterns and purpose of your shadow and learn to defuse negative emotions; reclaim forbidden or lost feelings; achieve greater self-acceptance; heal betrayal; reimagine and re-create relationships; cultivate compassion for others; renew creative expressions; and find purpose in your suffering. The shadow knows why good people sometimes do bad things. Romancing the shadow and learning to read the messages it encodes in daily life can deepen your consciousness, imagination, and soul.