If You're Looking For Warmth And Compassion About Your Sexual Worries, You Picked The Wrong Book. . . Yes, you'll get all your burning and why-is-it-burning questions answered, but the advice is coming from a son-of-a-bitch with a breathtaking gift for the gratuitous insult. In these pages, you'll find medical answers to everything from how you can ejaculate farther to how you can take--ahem--more cargo on your loading dock. Alvear answers questions with the compassion of a caffeine addict out of coffee, lining up a panel of doctors and psychologists against the wall and beating the truth out of them. The result is a marriage of impeccably accurate information, politically incorrect opinion and withering sarcasm. Because the questions come from gay men all over the country, they're like a peephole into the anxieties, concerns and worries that gay men have about sex. Here's a sampling of what you'll learn: . . . Only 6% of the population need extra-large condoms. Get over it. . . . The average erect penis is 5. I" long and 4.8" around. Unless you're in a chat room. Then double it. . . . Kegel exercises will give you harder hard-ons and more powerful orgasms. But then, so will an 18-year-old. . . . 50% of men on anti-depressants experience sexual side effects. And no, having an affair is not considered a side effect you can blame on medicine. With buzz-saw wit, Men Are Pigs, But We Love Bacon will leave you laughing, howling, and knowing everything you need to know about sex.

Finally--the book for every gay man's bedside table. At last! Answers to the questions you're too embarrassed to ask--but always wanted to know! Why does it hurt down there? Is it really safe to do that? What does it mean when something looks like this--and how do I make it go away? Chances are you never learned anything about gay intimacy from your parents, your school, or your family physician. Here, at last, is reliable, comprehensive information on a wide spectrum of gay medical concerns, written by an eminent surgeon and recognized authority on gay health issues. With up-to-date facts, interviews, and case studies from the author's practice, The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex goes far beyond HIV concerns, combining a complete education about the safe and pleasurable practices of male-male sexuality with a comprehensive medical volume. Here are the facts about what you need to know to keep your sex life hot and healthy, including: The rules of safe anorectal stimulation. Symptoms to send you running to the doctor. Foreplay, sex toys, and other accessories. Viral and nonviral STDs-don't wake up with an unpleasant surprise! Treatments for impotence and other sexual dysfunctions. Diseases that can be spread without penetration. Drugs...relationships...doctors (how to find the right one for you), and much more.

Each tastefully illustrated page features step-by-step tips and tricks that will be welcome additions to any gay man's bedroom repertoire.

Gay men reveal their preference—and the reasons behind it! Gay Men and Anal Eroticism: Tops, Bottoms, and Versatiles is a no-holds-barred examination of one of society's most persistent taboos. In a remarkably candid collection of frank and forthright interviews, 21 gay men talk about the role anal sex plays in their lives and relationships and their choices to act as insertive (“top”) or receptive (“bottom”) partners—or both (“versatile”). Ranging in age from 21 to 65, the men discuss the reasons behind (and consequences of) their choices; how they define their sexual roles (and how those roles are defined by gay society); issues of power, trust, and vulnerability; and the concept (in both straight and gay society) that tops and bottoms are socially and morally unequal. These unique interviews, conducted by the author in the Boston and Provincetown areas, celebrate choice in gay men's sexuality while debating whether preference is genetically based or socially formed—a debate largely ignored in social science studies. The men interviewed—including gay porn icon Cole Tucker—discuss perceptions muddied by stereotypes, preconceived notions, and exaggerated scenarios, and the meanings gay men assign to anal sex, including dominance and submission roles related to masculine/feminine, aggressive/passive implications. The interviews also cover each subject's personal history as a gay man, safe sex in the AIDS era, childhood traumas, first-time sexual encounters, loves, desires, and obsessions. The interviews for Gay Men and Anal Eroticism provide insights that are equal parts thoughtful and outrageous, humorous and heartbreaking: Aaron, age 24: “I sort of fell into this image of myself as being a very aggressive bottom, a guy who knew what he wanted and who didn't want any wimps applying.” Danny, 21: “There’s a mindset about being a top … it's kinda like maintaining the ship.” Sam, 36: “I hate to say it, but I’m a bottom … I don’t like to be identified like that because I feel it turns me into something all the way from my feet up to my head.” Eddie, 42: “I guess I enjoy more being a top than a bottom because I haven't found a good top.” and Cole Tucker: “A physical act doesn't really make you a top or a bottom. It's a function, an organic function of what you do. It's the dynamics of where you come from.” The revealing disclosures of Gay Men and Anal Eroticism show equality in man-to-man sex to be as varied as the number of individuals who pursue it. Addressing traditional misunderstandings and misconceptions of gay men as either “limp-wrested fairies” or masculine “trade,” the book uncovers that there is much more to this complex issue than personal preference.

Hallelujah! Finally there is a book that tells you ALL you need to know about gay sex. For let's be honest: Talking sex is only easy as long as you can play the part of the experienced lover. Stephan Niederwieser-author of various sex guides-informs you about everything you need to know, whether it's dating, health, the best ways to relax or the responsible use of stimulants. The Bible of Gay Sex is richly illustrated; it's a competent and entertaining book about everyone's favorite pastime.