"Permanently stop fear and anxiety from smothering the way you live your life, and stop settling for relationships that aren't right for you. Written by a behavioral relationship expert, Overcoming Insecure Attachment provides actionable steps on how to overcome insecure attachment styles and the problems they spawn with self-value, self-awareness and self-responsibility. Going beyond what traditional attachment theory books focus on, readers will follow eight proven steps that they can customize and organize in the way that best suits their unique needs, all the while being bolstered and championed by Tracy Crossley's friendly, bold tone"--Publisher's website.

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up. You’ll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness. If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can successfully explore old anxiety-perpetuating perceptions and habits without being overwhelmed or paralyzed by them. By understanding the psychological factors at the root of your attachment anxiety, you will learn to cultivate secure, healthy relationships to last a lifetime. If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same hurtful relationship patterns and finally break the cycle of heartache, this book can show you how to get the love you deserve—and keep it!

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.” —The New York Times We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

Do you often find it challenging to maintain successful romantic relationships? Are you trapped in a cycle of repeating behavior patterns in your relationships, haunted by the fear of heartbreak? What if you could predict the probability of your relationship's success or failure beforehand? Relationships are complex. They are made up of emotions, dreams, and shared experiences. But they are also made up of subtle nuances and underlying currents that we may not notice. At the heart of every relationship is the attachment bond. This is the deep emotional connection that shapes how we love, trust, and connect with our partners. When the attachment bond is secure, it is a strong foundation for our relationships. It allows us to communicate openly, be emotionally intimate, and feel safe. But when insecurity creeps into the attachment bond, it can act like a silent intruder. It can weave its way into our relationships without us realizing it. Insecure attachment can be like a ghost from our past. It can influence our perceptions, reactions, and expectations in our relationships. It can stem from early childhood experiences, especially those involving our caregivers. Unresolved attachment issues can lie dormant for years. But they can resurface when we least expect them, causing misunderstandings and turmoil. Ignoring insecure attachment can be a mistake. If we are not aware of the invisible forces at play, we may misinterpret our partner's actions. We may react defensively or withdraw emotionally. Communication can break down, and trust can erode. But there is no need to lose hope. This resource explores how our childhood experiences shape the adults we become. Our early relationships with our primary caregivers teach us how to interact with the world and others. A strong bond with our caregivers is essential for healthy development. However, unresolved attachment issues can lead to relationship and self-image problems later in life. This book will help you identify your attachment style and give you practical tools to manage it effectively. By understanding your attachment style, you can learn how to manage your emotions and relationships in a healthy way. This will lead to a more positive and stable outlook on all your relationships. If you have insecure attachment, you know you need to change, but you may feel stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can explore your anxiety-perpetuating thoughts and habits without feeling overwhelmed or paralyzed. By understanding the psychological factors that underlie your attachment, you can learn to build secure, healthy relationships that last a lifetime. This book is recommended for people who are experiencing any of the following in their relationships: · Dissatisfaction and high conflict: Constant arguments, disagreements, and feelings of dissatisfaction within the relationship. · Obsessiveness, intrusiveness, and jealousy: Feeling possessive or overly controlling, constantly checking on your partner, and experiencing jealousy over minor interactions. · Mistrust and suspicion: A pervasive lack of trust in your partner's intentions and actions, assuming the worst without evidence. · Fear of rejection and abandonment: An intense fear of being rejected or left by your partner, leading to clingy or needy behavior. · Desire for fusion and fear of intimacy: Struggling to maintain personal boundaries and desiring excessive closeness, while simultaneously fearing true intimacy and vulnerability. · Emotional distance and avoidance: Withdrawing emotionally from your partner and avoiding deep emotional connections. · Low level of emotional involvement: Feeling emotionally detached or numb in the relationship, unable to fully engage or express feelings. · Intimacy issues and difficulty in sexual relationships: Struggling to connect intimately with your partner, which can manifest in physical and emotional intimacy challenges. · Constant need for reassurance: Frequently seeking reassurance from your partner about their feelings and commitment. · Emotional hypervigilance: Being overly alert to potential signs of trouble in the relationship, always on the lookout for signs of rejection or betrayal. The patterns and beliefs developed during childhood can be unlearned and replaced with positive approaches, paving the way for a constructive life journey. Understanding how to overcome attachment issues can be one of the most rewarding and transformative things you can do for yourself. If you are tired of complicated and painful relationships, this book will be a great help to you and your loved ones.

As Bowlby himself points out in his introduction to this seminal childcare book, to be a successful parent means a lot of very hard work. Giving time and attention to children means sacrificing other interests and activities, but for many people today these are unwelcome truths. Bowlby’s work showed that the early interactions between infant and caregiver have a profound impact on an infant's social, emotional, and intellectual growth. Controversial yet powerfully influential to this day, this classic collection of Bowlby’s lectures offers important guidelines for child rearing based on the crucial role of early relationships.

Winner of the 2018 International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD) Pierre Janet Writing Award. A comprehensive treatment approach for the repair and resolution of attachment disturbances in adults, for use in clinical settings. With contributions by Paula Morgan-Johnson, Paula Sacks, Caroline R. Baltzer, James Hickey, Andrea Cole, Jan Bloom, and Deirdre Fay. Attachment Disturbances in Adults is a landmark resource for (1) understanding attachment, its development, and the most clinically relevant findings from attachment research, and (2) using this understanding to inform systematic, comprehensive, and clinically effective and efficient treatment of attachment disturbances in adults. It offers an innovative therapeutic model and set of methods for treating adult patients with dismissing, anxious-preoccupied, or disorganized attachment. In rich detail, it integrates historical and leading-edge attachment research into practical, effective treatment protocols for each type of insecure attachment. Case transcripts and many sample therapist phrasings illustrate how to apply the methods in practice. Part I, "Foundational Concepts," features a comprehensive overview of the field of attachment, including its history, seminal ideas, and existing knowledge about the development of attachment bonds and behaviors. Part II, "Assessment," addresses the assessment of attachment disturbances. It includes an overview of attachment assessment for the clinician and a trove of practical recommendations for assessing patients' attachment behavior and status both outside of and within the therapeutic relationship. In Part III, "Treatment," the authors not only review existing treatment approaches for attachment disorders in adults, but also introduce an unprecedented, powerful new treatment method. This method, the "Three Pillars" model, is built on three essential clinical ingredients: Systematically utilizing ideal parent figure imagery to develop a new positive, stable internal working model of secure attachment Fostering a range of metacognitive skills Fostering nonverbal and verbal collaborative behavior in treatment Used together, these interdependent pillars form a unified and profoundly effective method of treatment for attachment disturbances in adults—a must for any clinician. In Part IV, "Type-Specific Treatment," readers will learn specific variations of the three treatment pillars to maximize efficacy with each type of insecure attachment. Finally, Part V, "A Treatment Guide and Expected Outcomes," describes treatment in a step-by-step format and provides a success-assessment guide for the Three Pillars approach. This book is a comprehensive educational resource and a deeply practical clinical guide. It offers clinicians a complete set of tools for effective and efficient treatment of adult patients with attachment disturbances.

The mainstream upper-level undergraduate textbook designed for first courses in Developmental Psychopathology Developmental Psychopathology provides a comprehensive introduction to the evolving scientific discipline that focuses on the interactions between the biological, psychological, behavioral, and social contextual aspects of normal and abnormal human development. Designed for advanced undergraduates and early graduate students with no previous engagement with the subject, this well-balanced textbook integrates clinical knowledge and scientific practice to help students understand both how and why mental health problems emerge across the lifespan. Organized into four parts, the text first provides students with essential background information on traditional approaches to psychopathology, developmental psychopathology (DP), normal development, and insecure attachment. The next section addresses attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), autism spectrum disorder (ASD), and other problems emerging in childhood. Part III covers problems that arise in adolescence and young adulthood, such as depression, suicide, eating disorders, and schizophrenia. The text concludes with a discussion of special topics such as the relation between pathopsychological issues and divorce, separation, and loss. Each chapter includes a visual demonstration of the DP approach, a clinical case, further readings, and discussion questions. Developmental Psychopathology: Presents a coherent organization of material that illustrates the DP principle of cutting across multiple levels of analysis Covers common psychopathological problems including antisocial behavior, substance use disorders, fear and anxiety, and emerging personality disorders Features integrative DP models based on the most recent research in psychopathological disorders Provides instructors with a consistent pedagogical framework for teaching upper-level students encountering the discipline for the first time Developmental Psychopathology is the perfect textbook for advanced undergraduate or graduate courses in Child Psychopathology, Abnormal Child Psychology, Clinical Psychology, and Family Dynamics and Psychopathology.