My book reflects on and is being told through the eyes of a nine-year-old Southern girl named Sofay White, whos an only child. She resides in Oklahoma with her parents. Who by the way, also live in the same household as her Grandparents along with their fifteen children. Sofay is a mouthy, sassy but inquisitive little girl whos growing up too fast, making her mature with wits and wisdom. Shes always at the wrong place at the right time: snickering, laughing, observing, and ready to tell. Observing and ready to tell. Her life is centered on many daily outrageous activities among her aunts and uncles mishaps. However, out of all of her relatives Sofay is more connected to her favorite Auntie Eisha. Eisha, whom by the way, has been exposed to life changes while trying to stay above hot water in dealing with: family rivalry, family disconnections, and confusion between a man and a woman.

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

This book is a lifetime of short stories that includes an autobiography and history of a woman, her immediate family, extended family, and pets. It also includes challenges, humor, tragedy, and historical lifetime events that spanned her life over a period of nearly seventy years. Truly, angels were in her life, walking with her along the path from childhood to old age.

February 2011 On December the 17th 2010 Tarek el-Tayeb Mohamed Bouazizi, a young street vendor from Tunisia, was so disheartened by The System that he took his own life, by setting himself on fire. I am witnessing the collective few become and overcome the collective many. A changing tide of humanity is sweeping across a region that will affect not only that region but the rest of the world also. How? I have my theories, but let the future answer that, and then let history question it. My story is also of change. I wanted to change the person I had become; a tormented alcohol and drug addict. Following a phone call to my father, my story continues on from my last book, Two Years: in the mind of a recovering alcoholic, from the last few months in prison to coming home, exploring and putting into practice all of those thoughts and insights I was having about life, the universe and how to live and get fulfilment from it. This has led me to become a better father and partner, an existence away from the turmoil and stress, a state of mind free of the demons that had troubled me for a lifetime. This has led to a platform of contentment, a budding sense of inner peace from where I can progress even further. This story is about how I initially created this new life through choices I had made with the help of the unknown-to some- and unexplored forces around us. So what more could I possibly give to my future generations than the key to how it all became so, the way of life, in A Message to my Family: Believe In Yourself.