“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.”—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger Everyone is struggling to forgive someone: an unfaithful partner, an alcoholic parent, an ungrateful child, a terrorist. This award-winning book provides a radical way for hurt parties to heal themselves—without forgiving, as well as a way for offenders to earn genuine forgiveness. Until now, we’ve been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring, a gifted clinical psychologist and award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party. Beautifully written and filled with insight, practical advice, and poignant case studies, this bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead? When is forgiveness cheap? Can I heal myself – without forgiving? How can the offender earn forgiveness? What makes for a good apology? How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?

Have you ever been hurt, betrayed, used or done wrong? At some point in life, we all experience wounds from others. But, staying hurt is not okay. When we refuse to let go of the hurt, it turns to unforgiveness and unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other guy to die. It eats our lunch. This book is all about HOW to forgive...

Learn from the story of Joseph how to forgive, find peace, and move forward, even when it’s hard. Life gets messy sometimes. When relationships break down and you're deeply hurt, it can feel impossible to move forward. But the Bible has wisdom for a way through. Using the story of Joseph and his brothers as a model, author Wendy Alsup explores what repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation can look like, even in extremely difficult circumstances. Readers will see that peace, freedom, and fruitfulness really are possible, even when certain things can't be fixed. Readers will also be encouraged by the reminder of God’s ultimate plan for reconciliation and can look forward to being part of it in the new creation. Includes present-day examples and stories of lives transformed by the power of forgiveness, including the author’s own struggles.

A practical guide by the man Time magazine has called “the forgiveness trailblazer.” While it may seem like a simple enough act, forgiveness is a difficult, delicate process which, if executed correctly, can be profoundly moving and a deep learning experience. Whatever the scenario may be—whether you need to make peace with a certain situation, with a loved one or friend, or with a total stranger—the process of forgiveness is an art and a science, and this hands-on guide walks readers through it in 8 key steps. How can we become forgivingly “fit”? How can we identify the source of our pain and inner turmoil? How can we find meaning in what we have suffered, or learn to forgive ourselves? What should we do when forgiveness feels like a particularly tall order? All these questions and more are answered in this practical book, leading us to become more tolerant, compassionate, and hopeful human beings.

Filled with gripping, personal stories, this book teaches readers what it means to truly forgive. The authors assist readers in moving beyond saying "I forgive you" to true heart-change as they discover God's definition of justice and restoration.

How can someone forgive a sinless God? Shanda Miller's early life was molded by fear, abuse, and hatred. She witnessed her mother being abused over and over again until one night in the summer of 1984 when her mother was shot and left for dead. Everything Shanda knew about God and had heard in church seemed like a lie as each year passed with more abuse and disappointment. Losing her father and then her mentor and herself was all it took to be angry with a God who she always heard was loving and generous. After a lifetime of loss, she set out on a journey to find out who she was meant to be. She faced many obstacles while looking for a still-faced, angry God through the lens of the wreckage of her life. Shanda candidly tells her side of the story where anger meets forgiveness on the proverbial road of life. rough the innocent eyes of a seven-year-old girl to the cold, lifeless woman who walked the same dreaded boulevard of broken dreams and broken promises that had haunted generations of mothers before her, Shanda reveals how the fear and hatred molded her, but God's love broke that mold. Her anger at God for the lifetime of abuse fell away and the barriers blocking her from finding the real God crumbled around her the day she boldly said, "God, I forgive You."

Forgiving the Nightmare is a testimony of forgiveness, God's grace, and overcoming in the midst of life's hurts, pains, and abuses. Mark has been rescued from traumatic childhood abuse and restored through the power of God's Word and prayer.