It's time we addressed the epidemic of adultery as a disease! Learn how to stay, not stray!

"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

After the Affair teaches partners how to heal themselves and grow from the shattering crisis of an infidelity. Drawing on thirty-five years as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Spring offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such questions as: Why did it happen? Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? Can I—should I—recommit when I feel so ambivalent? How do we become sexually intimate again? Is forgiveness possible? What constitutes an affair in cyberspace?

In this groundbreaking new edition Dr.Weil reveals how to overcome the pain of betrayal and learn to heal the rift that adultery causes in a relationship. Statistically, only 35 percent of unions survive an affair. By teaching you and your partner the gift of forgiveness, Dr. Weil's proven methods will increase the odds to a happy 98 percent, with a healthier, more intimate relationship. This book provides practical exercises to cushion the pain, and her innovative therapy for children you can do at home! Dr. Weil teaches you how balancing brain chemicals can help to finally cure the epidemic of adultery and get you to "feel" so you can fall back in love with your partner! Learn how to create the same chemicals we make when we are truly happy or in love. Find out how to have an affair with your own partner!

From an acclaimed couples therapist, the first book ever to address the financial power struggles in relationships Money, not sexual adultery, is the #1 problem in relationships. According to Dr. Bonnie, one of the nation's leading couples therapists, "nearly one-third of adults in committed relationships admit to lying to their partner about spending habits." Secret credit cards, binge shopping, revenge spending, and POPs (pissed off purchases) are just a few examples of how financial infidelity undermines trust and harms a relationship. With clarity and compassion, Dr. Bonnie—who has a near one hundred percent success rate in counseling couples—helps readers recognize their hidden financial indiscretions, reconnect with their partners, and recover the trust and intimacy in their relationships.

A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.