Love is sustained when it is combined with the means of survival. In the Congolese society, a man can prove his love to his wife, only if he honors his ancestors' virtues, "Auto-sufficiency" is a key to liberty, and lethargy causes failure in relationship, especially marriage.

How does a Woman Chief rule in the Bantu Society of the Congo RDC? A woman is viewed as a mother of a society. Her leadership is effective, because it is based on her genuine love, vision, patience, integrity, loyalty, and justice. Her goal is to establish peace and freedom in her society. Further, she strives to restore people's ethics.

How a modest man suffers to establish a close relationship, or to marry a lady who comes from an ancient royal background in the Congolese society which is composed of the Bantu peoples and the Pygmies. Also, having a physical limitation, or infirmity can sometimes open ways that no one could dream about.