Marital and family therapist Moultrup unravels the meanings and functions of infidelity to reveal the complex roots of extramarital affairs and their ramifications for both the marital relationship and therapy. Beginning with family systems theory, he branches out to encompass individual psychodynamics and behavior therapy in fashioning an integrative, multisystem model of assessment and treatment. No bibliography. Annotation copyrighted by Book News, Inc., Portland, OR

There is hope for recovery from the devastation of extramarital affairs. In "Torn Asunder," Carder provides an overall recovery process from sexual and non-sexual affairs.

"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

ExtraMarital Affair: A Dangerous Game Many people Play provides information on real-life experiences among married persons, including those having affairs, leaders preying on children, adults having steamy sexual affairs in the church, and those using witchcraft to find or rob persons of their spouses. This book also gives thorough insights on the counselor, the counseling process, and legal issues to be considered when practicing extramarital affairs. This book is entertaining and informative while dealing with a very important issue that should never be taken lightly. The book encompasses some dramatic scenes narrated in story-telling format of actual events among married persons carrying out this practice. Another section compiles data from the Internet that is presented to reveal crucial issues especially in relation to sexual abuse of children. The author also shares information garnered over years of activities that happened within circles he has been in. The stories are supported with discussions, looking at the cultural issues, theological reflection and counseling implications of an extramarital affair. Based on the clear and informative approach used throughout the book, readers will find themselves being able to relate to the various sections of the book quite easily. This book is great for persons within the church who are ready to WIN in their marriage and family life. In addition, whether you are married, aspiring to marry, a counseling student or a person preparing for ministry...this book is a must-have given the pertinent information it contains.

An extramarital affair is, according to Dr. Herbert Stream, a form of neurotic behavior that reflects the person's unresolved chlidhood conflicts and present level of maturity. Using numerous case histories that provide excellent illustrations, he describes conflicted marriages and the expectations, dissapointments, and frustrations of those who use affairs as a means of escape. Issues such as mate choice, types of marriages, spouses' reactions, and unconsious compliance add depth and complexity to this important and often provocative subject.

Virtually all significant relationships are shadowed by a third party-another person, a competing distraction, or even a memory. This groundbreaking book provides clinicians with a hands-on guide to working with many different kinds of relationship triangles in therapy with families, couples, and individuals. The authors show why triangles come into being, how to predict their evolving nature, and how they can be dealt with and resolved in treatment. A wealth of clinical case material and treatment suggestions illustrates how thinking in terms of threes, as well as individuals and dyads, can greatly increase therapeutic flexibility and effectiveness. The paperback edition includes a new series editor's note by Michael P. Nichols.

First Published in 1996. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.