A raw and funny memoir about sex, dating, and relationships in the digital age, intertwined with a brilliant investigation into the challenges to love and intimacy wrought by dating apps, by firebrand New York Times–bestselling author Nancy Jo Sales At forty-nine, famed Vanity Fair writer Nancy Jo Sales was nursing a broken heart and wondering, “How did I wind up alone?” On the advice of a young friend, she downloaded Tinder, then a brand-new dating app. What followed was a raucous ride through the world of online dating. Sales, an award-winning journalist and single mom, became a leading critic of the online dating industry, reporting and writing articles and making her directorial debut with the HBO documentary Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age. Meanwhile, she was dating a series of younger men, eventually falling in love with a man less than half her age. Nothing Personal is Sales’s memoir of coming-of-middle-age in the midst of a new dating revolution. She is unsparingly honest about her own experience of addiction to dating apps and hilarious in her musings about dick pics, sexting, dating FOMO, and more. Does Big Dating really want us to find love, she asks, or just keep on using its apps? ​Fiercely feminist, Nothing Personal investigates how Big Dating has overwhelmed the landscape of dating, cynically profiting off its users’ deepest needs and desires. Looking back through the history of modern courtship and her own relationships, Sales examines how sexism has always been a factor for women in dating, and asks what the future of courtship will bring, if left to the designs of Silicon Valley’s tech giants—especially in a time of social distancing and a global pandemic, when the rules of romance are once again changing.

The #1 New York Times Bestseller “An engaging look at the often head-scratching, frequently infuriating mating behaviors that shape our love lives.” —Refinery 29 A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from Aziz Ansari, the star of Master of None and one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated? Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?” But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate. For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before. In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.

Technology has become ubiquitous to everyday life in modern society, and particularly in various social aspects. This has significant impacts on adolescents as they develop and make their way into adulthood. Identity, Sexuality, and Relationships among Emerging Adults in the Digital Age is a pivotal reference source for the latest research on the role of digital media and its impact on identity development, behavioral formations, and the inter-personal relationships of young adults. Featuring extensive coverage across a range of relevant perspectives and topics, such as self-comparison, virtual communities, and online dating, this book is ideally designed for academicians, researchers and professionals seeking current research on the use and impact of online social forums among progressing adults.

Break Free from Unfulfilling Relationship Patterns Psychotherapist Dr. Marni Feuerman offers profound and insightful advice for all those who find themselves in painful and unsatisfying relationships again and again. She offers explanations and solutions for why we attract and accept poor treatment, experience a lack of emotional connection from romantic partners, and often reject the good ones. Based on the science of love, neurobiology, and attachment, as well as Dr. Feuerman's clinical experience, this book will help you recognize why you get stuck and how to change these patterns for good. Her practical guidance, illustrated by real-life examples, will teach you how to spot and exit these situations and create healthy relationships that provide the love and support you deserve.

The internet and the mobile phone have disrupted many of our conventional understandings of ourselves and our relationships, raising anxieties and hopes about their effects on our lives. In this second edition of her timely and vibrant book, Nancy Baym provides frameworks for thinking critically about the roles of digital media in personal relationships. Rather than providing exuberant accounts or cautionary tales, it offers a data-grounded primer on how to make sense of these important changes in relational life Fully updated to reflect new developments in technology and digital scholarship, the book identifies the core relational issues these media disturb and shows how our talk about them echoes historical discussions about earlier communication technologies. Chapters explore how we use mediated language and nonverbal behavior to develop and maintain communities, social networks, and new relationships, and to maintain existing relationships in our everyday lives. The book combines research findings with lively examples to address questions such as: Can mediated interaction be warm and personal? Are people honest about themselves online? Can relationships that start online work? Do digital media damage the other relationships in our lives? Throughout, the book argues that these questions must be answered with firm understandings of media qualities and the social and personal contexts in which they are developed and used. This new edition of Personal Connections in the Digital Age will be required reading for all students and scholars of media, communication studies, and sociology, as well as all those who want a richer understanding of digital media and everyday life.

This is a much-needed update on the latest theory and research on love supplied by leading scientific experts. It is suitable for psychologists, neuroscientists, anthropologists, sociologists, and anyone with an interest in love and what has been learned from scientific studies of it.

In the pulsating heart of the digital age, relationships find themselves entangled in a delicate dance between connection and disconnection. As screens illuminate our lives, a dilemma unfolds a nuanced interplay of intimacy and isolation. In this brave new world, the glow of smartphones casts both a warm embrace and a chilling shadow on the fabric of human connection. Social media, the omnipresent narrator of modern relationships, weaves a complex narrative. It's a tale of instant gratification and curated perfection, where the lines between reality and illusion blur. The digital stage, though expansive, often becomes a breeding ground for insecurities, comparison, and a relentless pursuit of validation. Amidst the ceaseless notifications and ephemeral likes, the essence of face-to-face communication faces a formidable foe. The dilemma deepens as couples grapple with the paradox of being hyper-connected yet emotionally distant. Screens serve as both bridges and barriers, fostering the paradoxical art of simultaneous togetherness and isolation. The digital age, with its relentless pace, introduces a dichotomy of choice. Options abound, creating a landscape where commitment waivers and the fear of missing out looms large. Swipe culture and dating apps promise endless possibilities, but they also bear witness to the fleeting nature of modern connections. In this sea of choices, genuine connections can drown, lost in the waves of a never-ending stream. Yet, amid the turbulence, there's a glimmer of hope. Couples navigating the digital age dilemma learn to wield technology as a tool, not a master. The key lies in striking a delicate balance - cherishing the convenience of digital connection while nurturing the authenticity of face-to-face moments. In this era of pixels and pings, the digital age dilemma on relationships remains a captivating narrative. It's a tale of love and longing, where the protagonists grapple with the profound question of how to stay connected in a world that often seems designed to keep us apart. Benefits of digital age dilemma in relationships 1. Connectivity Reinvented: Navigate the digital age dilemma in relationships with enhanced connectivity. Digital platforms foster constant communication, keeping partners close, regardless of physical distance. 2. Infinite Memories: Embrace the photo-sharing culture to immortalize precious moments. The digital era allows couples to create a vivid tapestry of memories, ensuring no cherished experience goes undocumented. 3. Personal Growth Catalyst: Leverage online resources for individual and collective growth. The digital age empowers couples to explore self-improvement together, with access to endless educational tools and shared experiences that strengthen the bond while navigating the challenges of a modern relationship. In the digital age, relationships face a unique dilemma, balancing virtual connections with genuine human intimacy. The pervasive influence of technology threatens to erode the essence of meaningful connections. It's time to reclaim authenticity in our relationships. Put down the screens and engage in real, face-to-face conversations. Embrace the vulnerability of genuine communication, free from the digital distractions that dilute our connections. Challenge yourself to create moments untainted by the constant barrage of notifications. Rediscover the joy of being fully present with your loved ones. Let's break free from the confines of the digital realm and invest in the richness of genuine human interaction. Join the movement to prioritize real connections over virtual facades, and together, let's build relationships that withstand the challenges of the digital age.