Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and conflict resolution, bestselling parenting educator Coloroso offers a groundbreaking guide to an escalating problem of school violence.

Bullying has long been tolerated as a rite of passage among children and adolescents. There is an implication that individuals who are bullied must have "asked for" this type of treatment, or deserved it. Sometimes, even the child who is bullied begins to internalize this idea. For many years, there has been a general acceptance and collective shrug when it comes to a child or adolescent with greater social capital or power pushing around a child perceived as subordinate. But bullying is not developmentally appropriate; it should not be considered a normal part of the typical social grouping that occurs throughout a child's life. Although bullying behavior endures through generations, the milieu is changing. Historically, bulling has occurred at school, the physical setting in which most of childhood is centered and the primary source for peer group formation. In recent years, however, the physical setting is not the only place bullying is occurring. Technology allows for an entirely new type of digital electronic aggression, cyberbullying, which takes place through chat rooms, instant messaging, social media, and other forms of digital electronic communication. Composition of peer groups, shifting demographics, changing societal norms, and modern technology are contextual factors that must be considered to understand and effectively react to bullying in the United States. Youth are embedded in multiple contexts and each of these contexts interacts with individual characteristics of youth in ways that either exacerbate or attenuate the association between these individual characteristics and bullying perpetration or victimization. Recognizing that bullying behavior is a major public health problem that demands the concerted and coordinated time and attention of parents, educators and school administrators, health care providers, policy makers, families, and others concerned with the care of children, this report evaluates the state of the science on biological and psychosocial consequences of peer victimization and the risk and protective factors that either increase or decrease peer victimization behavior and consequences.

I have always been bullied and trapped in darkness. I hoped life would get better when I moved to my mother's hometown, but it only got worse because it was there that I met my unrequited crush, Hayden Black.He despised me from day one, and even more when I became best friends with his twin, Kayden. Kayden gave light to my life, but my happiness with him lasted only until one night two years ago.That night Kayden died because of me.Half of me died with him. The other half was left to bleed, suffering Hayden's and his friends' constant bullying.Now I must endure one more year before I can finally escape them and go to college. This year has to be different.Either I will become stronger, or they will finally break me into nothing.Warning: This book contains mature and sensitive themes such as abuse, violence, and offensive language. It includes situations that may be triggering for some readers, so caution is advised.

This book will provide you with a comprehensive set of lessons that will help eliminate bullying in your school. It includes more than 300 pages of insights and skill-building activities for children who are bullies, bully victims and bystanders. This book includes school-wide and classroom strategies, strategies for teachers, skills for students with special needs, dealing with sexual harassment, 15 lessons for bullies (learning a better way), 19 lessons for bystanders, and 26 lessons for the bullied.

What causes a person to bully another? Is it hate? Jealousy? Their own self-brokenness? To be a bully is a tragedy of the soul, but worse yet, to be the victim of bullying goes beyond just a tragedy but utter devastation and destruction of an innocent person's personhood. The victim, the target of a bully's inner inadequacies, is violated by someone who has severe brokenness. The victim is now left fragmented, depending on the degree of bullying and the strength of the victim to brace themselves against the pressure. Bullying is the stealing of an innocent person's right to be who they are. Their space is violated, and their valuables are stolen. They are left to feel like a victim, a fragment of who they were or who they used to be. A bully takes away, by force and illegally, the rights of someone else to live in their own unique and personal identity as a single-framed human being. Bullying is a disease of the soul that, if left unchecked, will carry over into a society of adults and leaders who have continued their bad characters from childhood into their adulthood, giving us a society that is filled with a denseness of moral "bullies." Bullying must be stopped. There is a cure, and there has to be a willingness to work together to end its infectious quest because it leaves an innocent person fragmented and needing to pick up the pieces of their lives to put them back together again. For some, it is very difficult; therefore, they sought a way out, so they commit suicide; for others, though it is very difficult, they seek help for the restoration of their "selves" so that they may continue with their lives, and yet for others, they live broken for the rest of their lives, society being robbed of who they could have been and the virtue that they could have contributed. Bullying is everyone's problem, and we all must work with intense purpose to destroy it from the root. To the bully, what makes a bully a bully? It is indeed brokenness on the inside. Issues and troubles are not always the reason for one's brokenness; brokenness, at times, occurs due to a flaw in one's character. Many who have everything they could ever wish for bully others because there is a certain satisfaction in inflicting pain. To the bully, it is not okay to steal someone's soul (mind, will, emotions). The toxic behavior of bullying another person is a sign that a bully needs psychological intervention. For a bully, there is hope; there is help. If you are a bully, seek help because bullying not only destroys another person's life, but it destroys the bully's as well because there will be consequences. To the victim, know that it is not your fault but that you are an innocent victim of someone's brokenness. What happened to you is tragic and unjust. You can recover all that you have lost. In your journey of healing, continue to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to flow in grieve and recovery because, at the end of your journey, you will have become a stronger and wiser version of yourself. It'll be you but with greater wisdom and greater power. The bullying will have given you the opportunity to learn and grow in ways you may not have grown had the bullying never occurred. So deal with it, process it, grieve, then move on. Use it to strengthen YOU, adding to your wealth of moral goodness.

This text presents a methodical, organized approach to counseling students in emotional intelligence (EI) by detailing how to understand and direct emotions, while also keying counselors directly to the underlying emotional motivations behind the behaviors. Divided into four units, the book starts with an overview of emotions and continues to explore the nature of anger, fear, grief, and guilt. Chapters present both explanatory narratives and teen-centered activities to show how these challenging, uncomfortable feelings when unregulated may negate resiliency and lead to anxiety, bullying, depression, and teen suicide. Counselors and educators alike will benefit from the light, unexacting tone that encourages humor and levity and discusses how to handle difficult emotions without harsh and heavy overtones.