Most people would agree that thoughtful behavior and common decency are in short supply, or simply forgotten in hurried lives of emails, cellphones, and multi-tasking. In Choosing Civility, P. M. Forni identifies the twenty-five rules that are most essential in connecting effectively and happily with others. In clear, witty, and, well...civilized language, Forni covers topics that include: * Think Twice Before Asking Favors * Give Constructive Criticism * Refrain from Idle Complaints * Respect Others' Opinions * Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame * Care for Your Guests * Accept and Give Praise Finally, Forni provides examples of how to put each rule into practice and so make life-and the lives of others-more enjoyable, companionable, and rewarding. Choosing Civility is a simple, practical, perfectly measured, and quietly magical handbook on the lost art of civility and compassion. “Insightful meditation on how changing the way we think can improve our daily lives. ... A deft exploration that urges us to think before speaking.” —Kirkus, Starred Review

Lou Yue had been in prison for three years as a scapegoat for scum. For the sake of his future, the scum of a man ruthlessly abandoned her and married her. When life is hopeless, but have no intention to enter the entertainment circle, henceforth brilliance is endless, peach blossoms do not stop, joy pamper. The scum man turned his head back repeatedly, feeling extremely regretful. The cold and emotional CEO imprisoned her body and mind. Lou Yue, you can only be mine. Even the gentle and charming international superstar unexpectedly extended an olive branch to her. Lou Yue, come to my side.

If you struggle with self‐defeating thoughts and feelings of inadequacy, you are not alone. We’ve all felt inadequate, believing that we’re broken or otherwise unworthy. But this doesn’t have to be a life sentence. Presenting four guiding principles and five core practices based in deep spiritual wisdom, Suffering Is Optional reveals how to liberate yourself from the prison of false self‐beliefs holding you back. Millions of people feel that they are not good enough. They may struggle every day, seeing themselves as deficient, pathetic, or damaged, and destined to fail. They convince themselves they aren’t worthy of love or respect, and view themselves with self-hatred. When you believe and cling to painful, self-defeating thoughts like “I can’t do it,” “It won’t work,” or “I’m a loser,” they become your personal reality—and the more you repeat them, the more you believe them, until they come to define you. Sadly, these limiting self-definitions lead to even more pain and suffering: hidden shame, problems in relationships, opportunities lost, and a life not fully lived. In Suffering Is Optional, clinical psychologist Gail Brenner offers practical ways to discover that you are not what your thoughts tell you you are. Rather than showing you how to become a better version of yourself, this book goes straight to the heart of the problem—that you’ve mistakenly identified yourself as broken and undeserving—to guide you out of these limiting thoughts and into an investigation of the nature of reality that ultimately liberates you from your suffering. With these exercises, experiments, reflections, practices, and inspiring stories, you’ll have a spiritual solution to your personal problem of limitation and self-sabotage. Using the four guiding principles and five core practices presented in this book—including turning toward direct experience, grounding in aware presence, losing interest in thoughts, welcoming feelings, and the sacred return to presence—you’ll be able to shed your false identity and wake up to the inherent peace and happiness that is available to you in any given moment.

The self-help genre is replete with books telling people how to be happier and more fulfilled. And books with a spiritual or mindfulness perspective suggest that being present is the solution. But no book provides the precise and constructive guidance needed to discover that happiness is truly possible in any moment. Until now. Using clear language and useful examples, "The End of Self-Help: Discovering Peace and Happiness Right at the Heart of Your Messy, Scary, Brilliant Life" describes how personal suffering is a case of mistaken identity. The book starts with common, entrenched psychological experiences such as unresolved problems from the past, worries about the future, feelings of inadequacy, compulsive behaviors, and confusing emotions. In skillful detail, it illuminates the shift of attention required for true happiness. Explorations in each chapter bring the material alive in the reader's own experience, essential to challenge decades of conditioning.The book walks alongside readers as they become experts in how their thoughts and feelings bring about suffering and realize the simple fact of peaceful, aware presence that is always here and available. It describes that this infinite, spacious presence is the truth of who we are, that we're not limited to our thoughts and feelings. The book illustrates how to live this insight in the moments of everyday life.

If you’re going to trial without an attorney, this is the essential guide for making the most of your day in court. Represent Yourself in Court breaks the trial process down into easy-to-understand steps, so that you can act as your own lawyer. The new edition includes information and tips on participating in a court hearing via Zoom.

It occurred to me years ago that many people think they are good Christians because they attend church every Sunday and that's all they have to do; they don't know they need to be more understanding and more loving.

Increase your understanding of facilitation and learn interventions and exercises you can use with others. This resource manual provides managers, trainers and consultants a format based on the core skills facilitators need to develop as well as the issues they will face at work. The Fast Facilitator shows the difference facilitation skills can make in helping people learn, be more self-aware, be more flexible in their thinking and behavior and build their self-confidence. The manual is organized into three parts covering a huge amount of groundwork: Essential facilitation, group and team facilitation and creative facilitation. Topics include what is facilitation, the qualities of a facilitator, planning and structuring, understanding roles in teams, when and how to intervene, working with diversity and defense patterns. Key issues covered range from attentiveness and culture to emotional expression, openness and feedback. Use this manual when you need support in dealing with a specific issue at work or when developing your professional skills. It is full of principles and practices that will enable you to get the best out of people.