The loss of someone you hold dear may be beyond your control; being paralyzed by grief is not. In 2014, Dr. Lucy Hone, the trailblazer in the field of Resilient Grieving, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow after her twelve-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By developing—and following—the strategies of Resilient Grieving shared here, she found a proactive way to manage her grief, embrace life again, and discover profound meaning. In this completely updated and expanded second edition, she continues to shift the narrative on how to grieve. With new scientific evidence, Dr. Hone demonstrates the inadequacy and potential harm of Kübler-Ross’s Five Stages model of grief. In its place, Dr. Hone shares the best of contemporary grief advice—offering tools to handle emotions, manage relationships, and get the support you need—replacing helplessness with hope and a sense of control. Here, also, are all-new, practical insights into how to keep your loved one’s memory alive. Dr. Hone has never been more convinced that the tools of Resilient Grieving can transform the ways that readers approach grief, helping them draw on their innate ability to cope with loss and become active participants in their grief journey—and, in time, get back to living happy, healthy, meaningful lives, just as she has done.

“This book aims to help you relearn your world . . . to help you navigate the grieving process as best you can—without hiding from your feelings or denying the reality, or significance, of your loss.” —from Resilient Grieving The death of someone we hold dear may be inevitable; being paralyzed by our grief is not. A growing body of research has revealed our capacity for resilient grieving, our innate ability to respond to traumatic loss by finding ways to grow—by becoming more engaged with our lives, and discovering new, profound meaning. Author and resilience/well-being expert Lucy Hone, a pioneer in fusing positive psychology and bereavement research, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow when, in 2014, her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By following the strategies of resilient grieving, she found a proactive way to move through her grief, and, over time, embrace life again. Resilient Grieving offers an empowering alternative to the five-stage Kübler-Ross model of grief—and makes clear our inherent capacity for growth following the trauma of a loss that changes everything.

A recommended new book for those who are grieving . . . [Hone's] metaphor for life after loss is both powerful and apt: Think of it as a scattered jigsaw puzzle, where the pieces of one's former life have been scattered and now must be reconfigured in a new way.'-The Wall Street Journal Dr Lucy Hone works in the field of resilience psychology, helping ordinary people exposed to real-life traumatic situations. When faced with the incomprehensible fact of her daughter's tragic death Lucy knew that she was fighting for the survival of her sanity and her family unit. She used her practice to develop ways to support her family in their darkest days, and to find a new way of living without Abi. In Resilient Grieving Lucy shares her research so that others can work to regain some sense of control and take action in the face of helpless situations. Previously published as What Abi Taught Us.

"The death of someone we hold dear may be inevitable; being paralyzed by our grief is not. A growing body of research has revealed our capacity for resilient grieving, our innate ability to respond to traumatic loss by finding ways to grow -- by becoming more engaged with our lives, and discovering new, profound meaning. Author and resilience/well-being expert Lucy Hone, a pioneer in fusing positive psychology and bereavement research, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow when, in 2014, her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By following the strategies of resilient grieving, she found a proactive way to move through her grief, and, over time, embrace life again. Resilient Grieving offers an empowering alternative to the five-stage Kübler-Ross model of grief -- and makes clear our inherent capacity for growth following the trauma of a loss that changes everything."--Publisher's description.

Resilient Grieving is a practical, research-based guide to finding your own path to recovery from devastating loss. Updated and revised edition, including new research.

This book fills a critical gap in our scientific understanding of the grief response of parents who have lost a child to traumatic death and the psychotherapeutic strategies that best facilitate healing. It is based on the results of the largest study ever conducted of parents surviving a child's traumatic death or suicide. The book was conceived by William and Beverly Feigelman following their own devastating loss of a son, and written from the perspective of their experiences as both suicide-survivor support group participants and facilitators. It intertwines data, insight, and critical learning gathered from research with the voices of the 575 survivors who participated in the study. The text emphasizes the sociological underpinnings of survivors' grief and provides data that vividly documents their critical need for emotional support. It explains how bereavement difficulties can be exacerbated by stigmatization, and by the failure of significant others to provide expected support. Also explored in depth are the ways in which couples adapt to the traumatic loss of a child and how this can bring them closer or render their relationship irreparable. Findings suggest that with time and peer support affiliations, most traumatically bereaved parents ultimately demonstrate resilience and find meaningful new roles for themselves, helping the newly bereaved or engaging in other humanitarian acts. Key Features: Offers researchers, clinicians, and parent-survivors current information on how parents adapt initially and over time after the traumatic loss of a child Presents data culled from the largest survey ever conducted (575 individuals) of parents surviving a child's suicide or other traumatic death Investigates the ways in which stigmatization complicates and prolongs the grieving process Addresses the tremendous value of support groups in the healing process Explores how married couples are affected by the traumatic loss of their child

The death of someone we hold dear may be inevitable; being paralysed by our grief is not. A growing body of research has revealed our capacity for resilient grieving, our innate ability to respond to traumatic loss by finding ways to grow -- by becoming more engaged with our lives, and discovering new, profound meaning. Author and resilience/well-being expert Lucy Hone, a pioneer in fusing positive psychology and bereavement research, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow when, in 2014, her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By following the strategies of resilient grieving, she found a proactive way to move through her grief, and, over time, embrace life again. Resilient Grieving offers an empowering alternative to the five-stage Kübler-Ross model of grief -- and makes clear our inherent capacity for growth following the trauma of a loss that changes everything.