In 'Our Deportment. Or the Manners, Conduct and Dress of the Most Refined Society' by John H. Young, readers are taken on an insightful journey through the intricacies of etiquette in refined society. Written in a detailed and sophisticated literary style, the book provides a comprehensive guide to proper behavior, manners, and dress, reflecting the societal norms of the time. With a focus on decorum and social conduct, Young's work offers valuable insights into the expectations and standards upheld by the elite class during the period in which it was written. This book serves as a window into the refined world of the late 19th century, shedding light on the importance placed on outward appearances and social interactions. It is a must-read for those interested in historical etiquette and cultural norms of the era. John H. Young, a well-respected scholar of his time, was known for his expertise in social etiquette and conduct. His thorough understanding of refined society's codes of behavior and dress likely inspired him to write this definitive guide on deportment. With a keen eye for detail and a passion for preserving the traditions of the upper class, Young's work remains a valuable resource for those seeking to navigate the complexities of high society with grace and poise. I highly recommend 'Our Deportment' to readers interested in the intricacies of social etiquette and the cultural norms of the late 19th century. This book offers a fascinating glimpse into the refined world of the elite, providing valuable insights into the expectations and standards of etiquette during that era.

In preparing a book of etiquette for ladies, I would lay down as the first rule, "Do unto others as you would others should do to you." You can never be rude if you bear the rule always in mind, for what lady likes to be treated rudely? True Christian politeness will always be the result of an unselfish regard for the feelings of others, and though you may err in the ceremonious points of etiquette, you will never be impolite. Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of heart put into daily practice; there can be no _true_ politeness without kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility.

During the 1800s, dance and etiquette manuals provided ordinary men and women with the keys to becoming gentlemen and ladies--and thus advancing in society. Why dance? To the insecure and status-oriented upper middle class, the ballroom embodied the perfect setting in which to demonstrate one's fitness for membership in genteel society. From the Ballroom to Hell collects over 100 little-known excerpts from dance, etiquette, beauty, and fashion manuals from the nineteenth century. Included are instructions for performing various dances, as well as musical scores, costume patterns, and the proper way to hold one's posture, fork, gloves, and fan. While of particular interest to dancers, dance historians, and choreographers, anyone fascinated by the ways and mores of the period will find From the Ballroom to Hell an endearing and informative glimpse of America's past.