"You Can't Make Me!" "You're Stupid!" "I Wish You Were Dead." From embarrassing public displays of defiance and snide remarks at the dinner table to shocking outbursts of hate and anger, children often communicate in ways that push the notion of freedom of expression way beyond acceptable boundaries. In Mom, I Hate You!, respected psychotherapist Don Fleming demonstrates that such behavior is a natural, necessary part of growing up and offers parents effective strategies for responding to provocative statements and establishing meaningful, mutually satisfying parent-child communications. Dr. Fleming takes parents through these tactics step by step, including: - Decoding the meaning behind children's words - Responding to the meaning, not the words - Strategies for change--incentives and consequences - Provocative communication and sibling rivalry - Line-by-line examples Dr. Fleming explains how to decode the emotional message behind a child's seemingly rude, mean-spirited, or disrespectful words and helps parents evaluate their own habitual, often counterproductive reactions to specific situations and behavior patterns. Using realistic examples, he shows that parents can reduce antagonizing and aggressive confrontations while teaching their kids to express their emotions freely and honestly.

One beautiful summer night, Felicity was having SO MUCH FUN playing in her back yard, until Mom came and said: "Felicity, it's time to come inside. It's time to go to bed." From there, Felicity's FUN and HAPPY moment quickly turns into ANGRY "I hate you, Mom!" How could Felicity and Mom turn this ANGRY moment into a moment of LOVE? How could this be a story of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? One of the many challenges we face as parents at some points in our parenting journey is the moment when our children act out from the principle of "I'M HURTING, SO I HURT YOU." In these challenging moments filled with RAW EMOTIONS, we as parents often get sucked into the intensity and we take it personally, feeling ATTACKED and HURT. As a result, we tend to react with the same principle, failing to RESPOND CALMLY with LOVE. Your children, you, and the parent-child relationship are all hurt in the process. It is my hope that this story inspires children, parents, and families to appreciate those intense moments as great OPPORTUNITIES to learn about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Use these challenges as stepping stones to continue nurturing RELATIONSHIP of TRUST. When children have opportunities to experience "unconditional love" with you in action, they not only learn to love you and others unconditionally, but they also learn to love themselves unconditionally. The gift of UNCONDITIONAL SELF-LOVE can offer a healthier and more balanced foundation for our children as they continue to explore their life journey ahead.

For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.

“I don’t know why my daughter is so angry. She yells at me all the time!” “Our daughter comes home, goes straight to her room, turns on her CD player and won’t talk to anyone– especially me.” “The emotional ups and downs of our daughter’s life make us all feel like we’re on a roller coaster.” Navigating an adolescent daughter’s emotional life is one of a mom’s toughest challenges. A teenage girl’s volatile emotions can seemingly toss her–and you–like a hurricane. When a scary external world and a turbulent internal world collide, the result is sometimes overwhelming and confusing. What can you do to protect your relationship with your daughter, guide her through this chaotic time, and assure her you are truly on her side? Your Adolescent Daughter’ s Struggles Can Help Her–and You–to Grow and Thrive. The good news is you are equipped with the most powerful resource available for maintaining and developing connection with your daughter: a mother’s heart. Learn how you can use hand-in-hand mothering skills to become the ally your daughter needs–parenting out of love, not fear–and find out how you both can experience dramatic, life-changing growth in the process.

DEAR MOM, I hate wearing old-fashioned dresses every day. STANDING OUTBeing called White Girl because I speak too proper for the black kids, too poor to fit in with the cool kids.And then when I finally built up the courage to tell you;"Mom, I'm hurting. Mom they won't leave me alone." You say, "Turn the other cheek." I hated when you said "yes" to everybody, no matter how much you didn't want to do it.No matter how bad he treated you, no matter how much it hurt you, you said, "Sometimes, you just gotta pray about it."I hate being poor. I hate living with you. I hate you. I hate you. I hate you.Until the phone rings, and the voice says, "Khadija. Your mother is dead."This intimate story of a lost girl chronicles Khadija Grant's experiences growing up as a teen and how it has shaped who she is today. It was written to shed light on issues teens and young adults face, and is a reminder to parents like herself, who sometimes forget just how difficult it can be finding your way.

Solve toddler challenges with eight key mindshifts that will help you parent with clarity, calmness, and self-control. In Why is My Child in Charge?, Claire Lerner shows how making critical mindshifts—seeing children’s behaviors through a new lens —empowers parents to solve their most vexing childrearing challenges. Using real life stories, Lerner unpacks the individualized process she guides parents through to settle common challenges, such as throwing tantrums in public, delaying bedtime for hours, refusing to participate in family mealtimes, and resisting potty training. Lerner then provides readers with a roadmap for how to recognize the root cause of their child’s behavior and how to create and implement an action plan tailored to the unique needs of each child and family. Why is My Child in Charge? is like having a child development specialist in your home. It shows how parents can develop proven, practical strategies that translate into adaptable, happy kids and calm, connected, in-control parents.

I Speak, Their Language is a compilation of her stories and experiences in working with children with disabilities. She wants to share how we can all help. This book is intended to motivate, educate and help us to relate. Her hope is to increase participation and reduce discrimination from us to them. She says: I speak as the voice of the parent who needs help and has become frustrated. I speak as the voice of the child who had no control over being born this way. I speak to the so-called normal people who lack understanding. I speak to inform you of ways to become that village that it takes to raise a child, ANY child because children dont come with manuals. Children with special needs dont come outlines of their disabilities. Parents of children with special needs dont come with extra strength, extra patience, dont get extra days off work, extra money to take care of or extra credit for doing a great job! Parents of children with special needs are often drained of strength, drained of patience, drained of money, take excessive days off work and are discredited for fighting for anything extra. They get blacklisted. They get a hard time. They get a bad reputation. And now they get MY VOICE! I Speak, Their Language