Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself. You feel crazy.You are NOT crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband's betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience. You're hurting, this book can help. Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and licensed marriage therapist describes: *12 Actions that will help you get back to the woman you were *Posttraumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS) *7 Actions you want to take but should NOT (as They May Backfire Horribly) *Understand the thoughts that plague you *The stupid things your husband says and why he says it This book is geared towards helping you deal with your tumultuous emotions so that you make better, more rational decisions.

This book is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity.You'll learn the things your wife is going to feel, say, and do, giving you the following:* Insight into what she is thinking and why this is so hard for her to get over* Practical advice so you know exactly what to do at this important stage* Actual scripts so you know what to say in response to very specific situations* Clear explanations as to why certain words and actions you think will be helpful might be making this worse* Two self-administered quizzes to help you determine why you cheated so that you can get a better understanding of what triggered your affair. Included at the appropriate points are scripts of what to say and why you need to say those words at that time. Do not just memorize these words and parrot them back to your wife. You have already lost her trust; if you start using words you don't normally use, you'll sound like you're faking it. You will want to translate the scripts into your own natural wording, using the meaning of each script as a launching pad for productive, healing dialogue with your wife.Also, other these other questions are answered:* She doesn't know. I feel guilty. Should I tell her the truth?* We aren't married yet? How does that impact recovering from the affair?* I didn't have a physical relationship with my Affair Partner, why is my wife so upset?* What is an Emotional Affair?

You always said if your man cheated, you'd leave him so fast his head would spin. But now that it's happened it's not so black and white, is it?Caroline Madden, MFT is an affair recovery specialist. She has over a decade of experience in helping couples challenged by infidelity in marriage and teaching women how to survive their husband's affair. In Fool Me Once, she shares the criteria she uses to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he will continue to cheat and hurt you.Here is some of the information she shares:* 5 Things That Look Suspiciously Like Your Spouse is Still Cheating (But He Probably Isn't)* 5 Signs You Should Consider Giving Him A Chance to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy After infidelity * 7 Signs He is Going to Cheat Again (And You Will Be Hurt Again)Infidelity is traumatic, and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving.Don't Make a Decision Now That You'll Regret Later ! As they say "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."Infidelity, Divorce Advice, Affairs In Marriage, affair recovery

Advocates against ending a relationship due to cheating, teaching both victims and perpetrators of infidelity how to deal with their feelings, reduce their sense of despair, and begin rebuilding a strong relationship.

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

“Your world has collapsed; your life dreams have crashed. It feels as if your heart has been wounded deeply—shattered—broken beyond repair. You wonder when your heart will stop bleeding. I understand. I too have stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now. Walk with me through the background stories of my personal experience with infidelity. I vulnerably share my private journal entries and short vignettes of how I survived my husband's betrayal. You will identify with my pain and confusion during the difficult stages of recovery. My story of survival is dramatic, hopeful, and instructive; it will help you as you process through the wide variety of emotions and if you choose, you can eventually move beyond the hurt and devastation that this nightmare has caused. It is possible to survive nightmares in the heart, and upon awakening, a new life will be waiting for you.”-Patti SnodgrassAuthor Patti Snodgrass shares the intimate details of her personal journey with infidelity and what it took to overcome her suffering. Patti's story of survival brings clarity and sanity to the emotional injuries caused by an unfaithful spouse and offers immeasurable hope to those whose hearts has been wounded by an act of betrayal. Candid journal entries are interspersed with engaging chapters, where, among other directives, readers are encouraged to be angry but also embrace a wide range of emotions on a journey towards recovery. Patti questions the past and ponders what might have been, but also brings clarity in being able to identify the truth behind the transgression in order for one to begin moving on. Snodgrass' main objective is to bring stability and hope to the wounded heart. In a very meaningful way, this resource is a guide to the aftershocks of infidelity. It's a true compass to help those in the midst of their own wilderness walk to know that they're not alone—that they will survive. With spirited encouragement Snodgrass provides fellow survivors a tremendous lifeline. Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is a dramatic, hopeful, and instructive guide that helps readers work through the wide variety of emotions and move beyond the hurt. Yes you are changed forever, but this is not fatal, and the journey chronicled in this book will help the wounded survive nightmares of the heart.

The secret to surviving infidelity can be summed up in one word: trust. Along with changes in the workplace and the explosive growth of electronic communications, there has been a skyrocketing rate of infidelity. Today, up to forty percent of American marriages endure the pain of a cheating partner. The media is filled with stories of married politicians finding their “soul mates” and titillating instances of unfaithful celebrities. But in the homes of ordinary people everywhere, infidelity triggers complex emotions and events that affect everyone involved. Many marriage and personal therapists have adopted a “me first” mentality, prompting hurt spouses to end their relationships. Psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, retired Brown University professor, recommends exactly the opposite. The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity teaches both the victim and the perpetrator of infidelity how to acknowledge their feelings, reduce their sense of despair, and begin the difficult task of rebuilding a strong relationship. People who cheat act much like those who have other addictions, and brain scans of love-struck individuals show a dramatic increase in the release of dopamine, the same brain neurochemical associated with cocaine abuse. Haltzman does not excuse infidelity by labeling it a sex addiction; it’s not orgasm that drives a partner to cheat. Instead, Haltzman coins the term "flame addiction" to describe how, like a moth drawn to the light, people feel compelled to have extramarital intimacy despite all the negative consequences. People who have been cheated on feel shame, rage, and injured self-esteem. Many of them fear abandonment and find it hard to cope. When both partners have made a commitment to move forward together, however, Dr. Haltzman validates each person's feelings and puts them into perspective, offering sound advice on how to recover their equilibrium and reestablish a committed, trust-filled relationship.