If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request. Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault. Pick up this manual for keys to unlocking freedom and a clear vision to moving forward. "This book is a got to get for anybody who wants to improve their skills and work through their own betrayal trauma, and it’s for men who clearly don’t have enough resources. I just can’t thank you, Sibylle, enough for helping this very special population heal. It’s amazing and thanks again." Carol A. Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, Author "Help Her Heal"

If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request. Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What's my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? What if I encounter the same triggers over and over again? Does it mean that I am not healing? You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault. Pick up this manual for keys to unlocking freedom and a clear vision to moving forward.

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

Sexual misconduct by clergy is a devastating issue that reaches across all denominations, damaging the credibility of the church in its wake. The media regularly reports on the moral failure of leaders and abuse at the hands of those who are supposed to be trustworthy. Betrayal of Trust focuses on a common scenario of abuse--sexual involvement between a male pastor and a female congregant--and offers practical solutions on how to respond to and prevent this betrayal of trust. This book presents methods that will help churches respond sensitively to victims and implement policies and procedures to prevent abuse from taking place. For clergy who may be at risk for this behavior, it offers help in establishing appropriate boundaries. This second edition includes a new chapter that offers help for the wandering pastor and a risk-determination questionnaire for pastors who may become abusers.

"With compassion and clarity, Richard Gartner shares insights from years of working with male survivors. Among this book's greatest strengths is the extensive use of examples from Dr. Gartner's clinical practice to illustrate problems and solutions on the path to healing. Beyond Betrayal offers support, encouragement, and useful skills to men in recovery." --Mike Lew, M.Ed., author of Victims No Longer and Leaping upon the Mountains "If you have been sexually abused, this book will give you information, hope, direction, and most importantly, the assurance that you are not alone. Dr. Gartner has written an accessible, compassionate book that clearly lays out the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children. Whether you were abused by a mother, a camp counselor, a neighborhood boy, or a priest, Beyond Betrayal will give you the tools you need to reclaim your life and move on. If you're going to take one book with you on the healing journey, this should be the one." --Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and author of The Courage to Heal Workbook "Compassionate, insightful, and hopeful, Beyond Betrayal shines a bright light. It is a must-read for anyone concerned." --Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., author of Silently Seduced "Beyond Betrayal cuts through the shame, confusion, misunderstanding, and fear that so often accompany the abuse of males and replaces them with clear information. I will begin to use it immediately with my patients and think that other clinicians will do so as well." --Christine A. Courtois, Ph.D., author of Healing the Incest Wound and Recollections of Sexual Abuse "Beyond Betrayal offers men straightforward words of hope and a meaningful way to overcome the invisibility, stigma, and shame they have endured. Many men and their families will find this book a healing aid." --Jack Drescher, M.D., author of Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man "Dr. Gartner writes in a manner any reader will find accessible. Not only does he understand the topic of males, sexual abuse, and recovery, but he can explain it to those who need to know." --Dr. Mic Hunter, author of Abused Boys and editor of Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse: Treatment Innovations

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

'With Edged Tools' is a novel that begins by introducing us to Henry Seton Merriman, Sir John Meredith and Lady Cantourne as they observe the ballroom with their seasoned eyes, criticizing the new generation of young people and their behavior. They focus on the belle of the ball, Millicent Chyne, who is a social success but lacks heart. When Guy Oscard, a rugged and adventurous young man, enters the scene, Millicent is immediately intrigued. As they dance, she discovers that he has just returned from Africa and is drawn to his sincerity and strength.