What does a healthy relationship look like? Knowing the answer to this question is the first step to improving the relationships in your life. In these pages, Stephen Arterburn draws from his own positive and negative experiences, as well as his years of counseling others, to reveal six key attributes of thriving marriages, families, and friendships. His practical advice will help you lay the foundation for the lifelong, supportive relationships you were created for. This is a selection from Arterburn's Regret-Free Living.

Love matters. Whether it's the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. So, why is it that some people find relationships so easy? We all know the kind of person, married forever, connected with their family, and strong friendships that have stood the test of time from all stages of life. The people who make friends easily, who have someone utterly devoted to them and for whom many would do anything. What do they know and do that the rest of us could learn from? That's what you'll find in this book. If you study people who are so good at relationships you discover it's not about their personality or gender or how self sacrificing they are. Those who are great in all relationships usually do have to work at it. The secret is that they know exactly where to put their efforts. They know the Rules of Love. Now updated and expanded with 10 brand-new rules, The Rules of Love helps you benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships.

This beloved book has touched hundreds of thousands of lives with its profound and actionable advice. Retaining the core message of becoming more mindful in our relationships, this edition includes new and revised material that addresses how we live and love today. A new preface touches on David Richo’s experience with the book over time and outlines the key updates, including attention to online dating and modern communication styles as well as new perspectives on anger and ending relationships. “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships. Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the “five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. Brimming with practical exercises for couples and singles, How to Be an Adult in Relationships offers heartening insights into a lifelong journey of love. Topics include: • Becoming conscious of our relationship patterns and how they relate to childhood • Recognizing and attracting someone who can show adult love • Understanding the phases relationships go through • Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries • Overcoming fears of abandonment and engulfment • Expressing anger and other emotions in adult and loving ways • Surviving break-ups with our self-esteem intact • Understanding love as a spiritual journey

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 10 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Clinical psychologist and radio host Dr. Steven Craig offers a revolutionary book that helps couples identify the six different people they need to become over the course of their relationship in order to grow together rather than apart. Throughout his career as a marriage counselor, Dr. Craig has identified a common thread in strained relationships: the belief that change should be avoided at all costs. Determined to destroy this harmful myth, Dr. Craig presents a concept as straightforward as it is original: Marriages don’t fail when people change; they fail when people don’t change. In The 6 Husbands Every Wife Should Have, Dr. Craig divides the typical marriage into six stages, outlining both the common misconceptions and opportunities for growth at each level. From the earliest stage of becoming the right person for your spouse in the new marriage; to thinking and acting like a team; to adjusting to the dynamics of parenthood; to caring for older children and elderly parents; to adapting to the empty nest; and then to growing into the golden years and becoming a dependable companion, Dr. Craig offers new communication tools, rules for intimacy, checklists, and assessments designed to inspire change. The 6 Husbands Every Wife Should Have will revitalize readers’ notions of marriage and turn it into an ongoing activity that husband and wife can conquer actively—together.

This is the second, revised and expanded edition. The first edition was published under the slightly longer title "How to Take Smart Notes. One Simple Technique to Boost Writing, Learning and Thinking - for Students, Academics and Nonfiction Book Writers". The key to good and efficient writing lies in the intelligent organisation of ideas and notes. This book helps students, academics and other knowledge workers to get more done, write intelligent texts and learn for the long run. It teaches you how to take smart notes and ensure they bring you and your projects forward. The Take Smart Notes principle is based on established psychological insight and draws from a tried and tested note-taking technique: the Zettelkasten. This is the first comprehensive guide and description of this system in English, and not only does it explain how it works, but also why. It suits students and academics in the social sciences and humanities, nonfiction writers and others who are in the business of reading, thinking and writing. Instead of wasting your time searching for your notes, quotes or references, you can focus on what really counts: thinking, understanding and developing new ideas in writing. Dr. Sönke Ahrens is a writer and researcher in the field of education and social science. He is the author of the award-winning book “Experiment and Exploration: Forms of World Disclosure” (Springer). Since its first publication, How to Take Smart Notes has sold more than 100,000 copies and has been translated into seven languages.

Do relationships have to be so difficult? Maybe not. Don't we all want to be more satisfied in our relationships with everyone in our life? Friends, family, co-workers, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, these are the relationships we most value. When we look at the news, what do we see? Endless stories about how we're all getting along? No Most of what we see is about all the fighting and the disruption in our world? We can choose to be a part of that or we can choose to have relationships that flourish harmoniously. If you drive a car, you bring it in for a tune-up. You take care of your health with check-ups. Where do you go for a relationship check-up? This book is about cultivating and sustaining healthy, thriving, fulfilling and meaningful relationships. The key to this is greater awareness. And it doesn't have to be so difficult. Christine Kiernan-Producer, Thomson Reuters, New York "I picked up Healthy Relationships 101 on a friend's recommendation. Once I started reading, I couldn't stop until I'd read it cover to cover. Author and Relationship Foundation director Michael Jascz has created a compelling narrative, in which he interweaves personal history and anecdotes from students with clear-cut information and guidelines for becoming a more effective communicator. Among the lessons the book spells out: how to express oneself without placing blame on others; how to empathize and be a better listener; how adverse childhood experiences can affect our present-day relationships - and what we can do to change this. For those of us who did not have the good fortune to pick up effective communication skills in childhood, and for others just wanting a brush-up, this book is an extremely engaging, useful guide. I'd recommend Healthy Relationships 101 to adults, children, school groups, work places - to anyone wanting to improve her/his relationships with others and the world at large." Barbara Davis Thompson, Psychotherapist, MSW, MA, New York City "Michael Jascz has written a powerful book that is engagingly readable. No surprise that good relationships are one of the critical elements of a satisfying life. Michael spells this message out smartly and effectively. His book gives example after example from the lives of those emotionally hacked by bullies, uninformed parents and other authority figures whose hurtful words and behavior carry the power to emotionally damage for a life time. His book Healthy Relationships 101 shares transformative information on how to develop the types of relational skills that allow you and yours to tune into the most important needs and wants of oneself and others. Just imagine every child, teacher and parent experiencing being heard and understood. Healthy Relationships 101 is Michael's impassioned dedication to reaching families, teachers, society and the young people of the world. He asks us to meet the challenge of developing "Relationship Smart" children and to start now reaching them at the youngest age possible. Michael asks the world to listen up; change is possible. There have been over 80 student incidences of attempted or completed mass murder and suicides taking place since 2010 in our school systems. "Enough is enough These tragedies can be prevented." Christine E. Ivey - Licensed Drug Dependency Counselor, Masters in Counseling, San Antonio. Texas "I am so impressed with your book This piece of work is invaluable. Who isn't in a dysfunctional family these days? Most of our clients have a true addiction and have been masking their emotions with some type of substance and have no clue who they are, much less what a healthy relationship looks like. I am doing an hour and a half workshop using your book. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing." Natalie Burke- Public Health Graduate Student University of the Sciences, Philadelphia "I just located a link to your book online. I am absolutely floored by it."